Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Sometimes HE Wins.....Sometimes WE Lose

We: Well you joined IBM ,then why did you leave it?
He: Hmmm...It was huge. It was the company that was big,not me. I was getting lost.It was a big fish.

We: So  you mean Identity is more important to you than brand name?
He: Yes absolutely.Its natural also.You want your work to be recognized.You want yourself to be somebody.

We: That's Interesting....So you joined a startup in Chandigarh? How did you find the small fish?
He: Yeah i joined the small startup,enjoyed it for sometime.But again i was not doing something meaningful with my life.
I was not doing what i wanted to do.

We: You mean small fish was also not tasty?
He: [Laughs] It was for sometime,but yes not tasty enough to be had for life.

We: So you quit again...and that too in the mid of the worst recession of 50 years?
He: Yes i did..and that was because i didn't want to waste my coming 50 years doing something which is just not me.

We:  You Quit the big fish,you quit the small fish.Now would you try the mid sized fish?
He: No..i'll quit having fish.[Smiles]

We: What are you plans now?
He: Nothing ...i just want to go home,i want to go to my village.Find my passions.I want to know who i am?
I want to learn .I want to question what i have read, i want to confirm my beliefs.I want to study.

We: ........but why do you need to do that?What kind of job will you get after doing that sort of stuff?
He: It's not about job,You do a job for only 8 hours a day.These actions are to figure out what i do the other 16 hours,and gradually increasing those 16 hours and decresing the 8 hours.

We: Hmmm Interesting stuff  but You said that you would be studying further? Are you preparing for higher studies?
He: May be yes...It has to fascinate me and if it does It doesn't matter if it's higher study or lower study.It's not about reading hi-fi stuff.I think i need to clear a lot of basic stuff as well.If needed i'll study 8th standard books.

We: Ok...So now that you agree .What are you preparing for? MBA or MTech ?
He: [Laughs]MBA or Mtech.Well you make it sound a very close call....I just don't understand how you can juxtapose both these degrees? I would have loved it if you would have asked me about my interests and then figured out the possible options for me.Are these two degrees synonymous to higher studies for you?

We: No No ...you got me wrong.I was just giving you the most obvious options.
He: They are obvious because none of us has ever questioned their obviousity.Infact most of us have never tried to question ourselves that if i want to do an MBA ,what would i like to manage. If i am an engineer what would i like to engineer,It's like whatever branch i get according to my rank.I'll engineer India that way.

We:  You mean the whole of India is going wrong?
He: Well no .. i just said that India is not going right. See i'll give you an example.One of my friends managed some pathetic grades in college and as a result he was not placed. Now if you see he is in total turmoil.He didn't get "the single thing"(job) for which he went to the college.So He asked his parents as what can he do now?
Parents suggest why doesn't he go for an MBA.
Now Please tell me that a person who has not been able to manage himself how can we expect him to somehow manage the Businesses.

I mean it's ridiculous.

We: That was a very good point but...MBA/M.Tech is an necessity these days.
He: Yes i agree ...If only you know what you want to manage or else they are as necessary as the Xth and the XIIth results.Does someone ask you about your hindi marks in 10th.Things which we don't have seem fascinating till we achieve them.

We: You mean to say Education done till now was worthless for you?
He: I feel cheated yar...why was i told that moral science is an optional subject and Integration is compulsory for me to learn?
everyday i feel that i am using moral education much much more than i am using integration.Moral Values define me ,integration doesn't.

We: .... but all of your friends are doing there jobs,won't you feel left out on the corporate experience.You have already gone behind by 6 months in corporate world experience.
He: Hmmmm Life is a race. right?....Well i think you are also from the same school of thought. Experiencing pain in meaningless work is relevant or getting experienced in meaningful work.
I am not here to defeat someone else.I'll create my own track.

I m learning and i am learning everyday 
moreover i am learning ,i m not being taught.

We : .........but where are you going?What is the destination?
He: I am enjoying each and every day...i have found my passions and i don't know when i'll be successful but i also believe that success is not some place to reach.
It is a road and this road is always under construction.
One thing that i am sure about is that my road doesn't ever intersect with your road so you don't need to worry about me winning or you losing.

We: You winning or me losing...??!!  I lose in either case.
He: Oh is it.... [Smiles]

14 comments:

Rookie said...

nice write up.
though one thing bothered me -
having tht attitude nd still accepting someone calling u "Sir" - doesn't fit well

Suresh said...

HE is really gutsy...many of us know our passions but still don't have the guts to go for them...(situations differ(i don't know sometimes its really like that or just an excuse))

nice post...keep it up dude...[:)]

Vishal said...

Sometimes He Wins..... Sometimes We lose... :)

Shamail said...

He: No..i'll quit having fish.[Smiles]

LOLzz

Arjun B S said...

I'm in two minds about this GUY. He's got his fundaes right... i mean some remarks make you go like 'How true!'. But I'd hate it if this person weren't an action taker.

Gaurav Vashist said...

@Arjun
HE that i am referring to is every single MAN.

It would be great if all of us can be the HE MAN.:)

B@KhT@@v@R said...

Completely agree with Arjun.....the HE-MEN should rise to the occasion.

Nice post.....pretty involved!

An (A)mateur Beginner... said...

A very interesting post, I must say.

Nayanank Mahajan said...

shudnt hav read this post... caus m just bout to eat the fish u left behind. great philosophy but we al have been cheated aur ab naukri ka laddu to khana hi padega sir!!!

Gaurav Vashist said...

@Baghel and Swati
Thanks .... :) Yeah Baghel all these thoughts need to be put into action.

@Nayanank - Bro I am also eating the fish...I wish i was the HE in this post.

See you should eat it once...who knows you might njoy it...or atleast you'll know that it was bad.

tapu said...

well..it defines the ultim8 utopian scenario..sounding so nice and good but seemingly impossible to achieve today..
nice 1.. :)

tapu said...

kyaa baat hai sir..aapka friend mahaan hai..very good.. :) we need more ppl like him..

haha..mera blog toh mere 'whacky' vicharo ki peshkash hai..kuch ko ho skta hai psand aaye..baaki gaaliya denge.. :)

waiting for your indispensable comments on all 3 posts..hehe

Abhishek Tondon said...
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Abhishek Tondon said...

@Nayanak
Separating Philosophy from real life doesn't help, just like sitting in the Presidential chair doesn't qualify one for the role.

I seriously feel that the more we're able to apply our philosophy in our actions, the more learned we've become. Thoughts form the basis of actions. Few have a philosophy of their own, fewer dare to practice that philosophy they believe in. And if we know of even one such person, we're fortunate to learn from 'him', and delve within to trace our own roads.